Sidebar, do you think it's fair that God conditions salvation on belief in Christ given that some of us only have the Bible and a set of imperfect messengers when a generation of Judeans witnessed Christ's ministry and miracles first hand? Isn't it easier for such people to have believed and therefor unfair of God to hold us to the same standard?
But, the point is that some people DO believe it without requiring first hand direct in-your-face proof.
Why would God "feel sorry" (so to speak) for the ones who don't believe?
Because people who believe, by definition, got from god exactly the information/experience/message/whatever, that they needed in order to believe
. For some of them it was first hand direct in-your-face proof--god himself showed up and said hello. For others it was a healed doggie or a baby cured of "incurable" cancer, or a lotto ticket that paid out a million dollars right before foreclosure, or a near death experience where they saw someone they thought was Jesus in the operating room. Any of those experiences could be interpreted differently, but for those people it was sufficient evidence for god
. Those who do not believe, by definition, did not get from god exactly the information/experience/message/whatever they needed in order to believe
. Otherwise, they would believe!
They might have had all of the above experiences, but not once did it occur to them that there was a god behind any of it. The baby was one of the lucky 2% whose cancer went into remission. Someone's ticket has to win the lotto, and lots of people have been near to losing their homes, so it is very likely that the two events will happen together once in a while. Nobody knows what Jesus looked like, and people's brains do all kinds of things under anesthesia or when close to death-- it might have been a Sikh technician with a beard who was the last face the person saw before they went under and dreamed they saw Jesus. So none of that stuff would be enough to give them faith, and god already knows that.
If god shows up in front of you, irrefutably the one true god, how could anyone not believe? Given that, why does he not just show up? That is all any atheist is asking. Minimally, god needs to show up. but, chances are good that he will not and most of us will die unbelievers. Again, whose fault will that be?
It is as if god gives some people just what they need (like the entry code or secret password to the "faith website") but does not give it to others. Or in the case of other religions, he hands over a fake password, or gives demons a fake one to hand out
And then, he is going to punish all the people who did not access the "faith website" correctly. Even though he knew that without the right password, they would never be able to access it.
And this is fair, just, loving, caring and kind, how?
Anyway you look at it, unless you already have the god glasses on, god comes off badly. He is at best, an arrogant Professor Snape type who enjoys rewarding the few who learn quickly, while holding back knowledge from the rest so he can watch the ignorant squirm in terror before him. At worst, he is Pol Pot or the North Korean dictator, torturing people to death for not marching straight enough, giving out meat to half the people, letting the others eat only grass soup, and letting a lucky few share his caviar and take luxury trips on his yacht.