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Ah, some clarification. I was kind of baffled by that entire thing. This explanation at least gives it some context, because to be honest, I was wondering wtf you were trying to do. Since you tend to write clearly even then, it's hard to tell when you're drunk posting sometimes.
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Good points Mr. Blackwell.

The forum is actually a place where you literally do not have to respond immediately. This is a central point for those who "get frustrated or angry". A personal "time out" is one of the better tools a member could use in order to avoid lashing out or writing something they might not be so proud of after a later review. This is not a real-time medium!

To the point of the OP, we certainly have no way of forcing members to take this type of advice, but it would not be so bad to suggest in our etiquette verbiage.

The real challenge is within each of us. We all want to believe we are right - and when that dominates our thinking, we see no reason to hold back on proclaiming someone stupid, or an idiot, or whatever. We each feel a sense of being right, and thus we tend to believe our peers would support us and our replies are justified - almost always, I suspect. I am guilty, for sure.

Objective self-reflection is hard for us. I suppose that is because we are unable to step outside of ourselves in order to evaluate ourselves - because we are biased. Of course, this also means that when others direct their opinions about our behavior, we believe it is subjective (and wrong), and our biases prevent us from accepting it. This is unfortunate.

Final thought, this medium requires a decent command of grammar and language skills. Without these important skills, messages are taken in unintended ways, and sometimes in opposite ways of the original intent. How can members work on their writing skills to make their message as clear as possible? Important, yes!

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Chatter / Re: Gun Fails
« Last post by Mr. Blackwell on July 22, 2017, 10:08:32 AM »
A pic (Vid) is worth 1000 words.  Truly scary.  And some people say everyone should be armed.  (The best one was the guy who got shot with his gun after the post fell over.)

My favorite was the "Jersey Shore" chick.

[Relax, I don't know what I'm doing!]
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Whenever my grandmother was properly incensed about things she would write a long letter outlining her grievances then put it away for a day. She would re-read it the next day. 9 times out of 10 she would burn the letter. The other times, she would normally rewrite it to make it more congenial and coherent.

On these forums it may be more difficult for some people to walk away from a debate or argument or discussion because it feels like it's more immediate and urgent to get a point across in the heat of the moment.

I walked away from the Female Dr. Who discussion the other day because I was drunk and getting worked up...not with anyone here in particular but because I was talking to people here about something I feel passionate about...that is where I was starting to vent my frustrations.

Looking back over it the next day, what I said didn't make a whole lot of sense in the context of the conversation because I was lashing out at phantoms. I didn't go back and expand or explain because I wasn't sure what point I thought I was trying to make and I wasn't really trying to argue against anyone in particular. If I had stayed up longer or had another drink I might have said some things worthy of an apology. As it stood, I think it's clear that I was just flailing my arms around randomly in hopes of hitting a windmill or something.

Drunk and looking for a fight. Heaven forbid if someone had come online at that moment to give me a real target. I might have thoroughly embarrassed myself.



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Damn it, I don't know why we need this.
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So the Ark people stiff KY for $700,000.  Then Kim Davis thing results in KY having to pay $200,000.  Man, I wish I was a tax payer in KY and my money could go for religious shit like this.
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Chatter / Re: Gun Fails
« Last post by Nick on July 22, 2017, 09:45:22 AM »
A pic (Vid) is worth 1000 words.  Truly scary.  And some people say everyone should be armed.  (The best one was the guy who got shot with his gun after the post fell over.)
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Members can and should report abusive behavior that clearly violates the forum rules, as well as report etiquette breaches. That is far easier than responding or getting involved in behavior that exacerbates bad behavior. Yes, there are more borderline behaviors than literal rule violations, but the mods have tools that help put appropriate pressure on members that include full post moderation (requires approval before it is seen.)

The other option is for members to use techniques that disarm abusive behavior and provide no resistance (something that keeps abusive behavior alive). Example, someone resorts to mild name-calling. Instead of reciprocating, stay on topic and use a gentle reminder that name-calling is not effective in discussion (and in most cases is against the forum rules). Basically, try to ignore the icing and get to the cake! Not all icing is amazing...lol.

I'll tell you what I've learned on this forum and elsewhere in my life as I grow older. Life is too short for petty and unkind or abusive behavior towards each other. I've said this before, but I delete more of my own posts than I submit. It's my form of personal therapy in a small way.
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Chatter / Re: Gun Fails
« Last post by Mr. Blackwell on July 22, 2017, 09:20:59 AM »
This a truly scary video when you think about it.

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General Religious Discussion / Re: Thou Shalt Not Suffer a Witch to Live.
« Last post by Mr. Blackwell on July 22, 2017, 09:18:31 AM »
You're judging from the perspective of the 21st century..

Isn't this the same perspective that present day Christians have?! I should have made it clear; I'm talking about present day believers in this book.

Thing is though, it doesn't really help dispel the notion that witches are not real when you got stuff like this goin on.

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-39090334
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At the stroke of midnight on Friday, followers of witchcraft across the US performed a mass spell designed to stop the president doing harm.

A Facebook group devoted to the ritual has attracted over 10,500 likes, and coined the hashtag #magicresistance.
The development has sparked fury among Christian conservatives, who have accused the witches of "declaring spiritual war".

So, yeah. I think our secular laws are having a positive impact of our lives in modern times. We've come a long way since Salem.
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