1st) The Christian religion forces people to marry as virgins. This means that they don't have any sexual experience. A lot of things could go wrong, like the guy being a closet gay.
2nd) Christians can't divorce. Which means the couple is vulnerable to abuse. The guy can for example beat the wife to death. If she leaves the relationship she's a sinner, according to God's law. A Couple can only divorce in case of cheating.
3rd) Most Christians marry early only to be able to have sex without being labeled as sinners. This means that any lack of maturity and financial stability will prove to be a real problem.
4th) Most Christians are indoctrinated to believe sex is evil. They can carry guilt throughout life, even though they're now married.
These of course are just my observations. Do you agree?
I'd agree with most of the above.
1 - Most Christians don't marry as virgins, but this compounds the guilt they have over sex. It's just about impossible to 'hold out' in a serious relationship where you are in love, scheduled to marry, and are in the peak of your sexual drive. This gives the church an automatic excuse for why after their teaching fails the couple, and god isn't real or doesn't intervene in any way, they can blame the couple for falling apart... "Well, they weren't pure so God didn't bless their marriage" Always an excuse for god why he's all good and all powerful but we don't deserve any help from him with anything.
2 - Christians believe that they can't divorce, but they divorce more often than most other groups. What you say is kind of true. I think the church does want to help and protect any battered women. It's probably more true that they don't recognize that women can be abusive. You're talking about old school, 1950s sort of guys... they're very protective of women for the most part in most american churches, which is good. I wish it was "protective of either partner if the other was being abusive" but it's much more old school. Like my father teaching me that even if a woman punches me, I can never raise a finger in return (and this has happened, and I did not). But it's not really fair for women to be allowed to be abusive simply because most of them aren't as proficient at causing damage. It should be "nobody should abuse the other" period.
What does eventually happen in abusive Christian marriages is that one or the other will try to silently suffer it out per God's instruction instead of working to maintain healthy communications and consequences and whatnot up front. So it'll go from "we're happy" to "we're divorcing" in 60 seconds. Because so much is repressed.
Also, since Jesus said that any kind of lustful sinful though is cheating, any couple can claim that their partner cheated, and thus they are vulnerable for divorce. Of course they have to sob it up and make it seem like a legitimate complaint, but it could be for something like the guy checking out girls in bikinis on the beach... so instead of having any kind of realistic expectations and talks about respect or forgiveness... it just goes right to immediate over-reaction.
The way it works is the same way all of our companies probably have "some" reason on the books to fire each of us. You've browsed a sport score at work on their internet, or taken a break that you weren't allotted, or came in late once or twice, or told an inappropriate joke.
Companies don't use these excuses to fire people until they want to get rid of a person, then they have a ready made excuse. Since the problems have been repressed for years, there's no longer any time to try to work on the issue.
3 - Right, the younger you marry, the more likely you are to divorce, for a myriad of reasons including financial, and simply maturing into your adult personality. But because you're trying as hard as you can not to "sin" you figure you should rush into marriage to avoid sin, since being obedient to God is a top priority.
4 - Absolutely true. I know couples where the woman thought dead relatives were watching her and her husband have sex from heaven, and could therefore never feel safe or good about sex. It was always dirty.
There's a real problem with a marriage between two sexually repressed, guilt driven people. It causes depression and other serious problems.