That's why a friendly relationship should be established before the horizontal shuffle begins. If you're into that sort of thing anyway.
And when oh, so friendly men disappear or grow cold when you don't want to get horizontal within hours/days of meeting them you're considered just not in to that sort of thing...
If it makes you feel better about me, I'm a giver. And though, being a guy, I usually want to get into a girls pants on the first date, I actually wait a couple of weeks before I do. Unless it's a friend with benefits, that's what they are there for (and for them, what I'm there for) but I would never use rape or sexual abuse as a tool, even if she wanted me too (and a couple in the past have), not my thing. I'm a lover, not a fucker.