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When my son died in October, I found a few thousand dollars from a fundraiser that was given for him by his friends towards the end of his life. He never had a chance to use it, but had hidden it in a small bag in his closet.  Nobody knew that it was there, just me.  I pondered what to do with this money…it was raised for Joe by people who wanted to make his life just a little easier.

 Now, I could really use a new ATV and I had paid for many of his bills in the preceding months. I had paid for half his funeral costs. I had lost my paycheck for over 8 months to care for him.  I could easily justify it to myself that this money should really be MY money if I wanted it to be. But I felt that this money was given for a purpose…and that purpose was not to benefit ME).

So I decided to give the money to a woman who had young kids and whose husband had recently been diagnosed with advanced lung cancer. She was struggling financially and I knew that it hurt her when she couldn’t provide her kids with the little things that mean so much to children.  I gave it to her in a way that made it very clear that the money was not mine and that it was given to her because I thought that Joe would have approved.  I was not interested in her gratefulness or obligation; I just wanted to make her life a little more bearable.  The gift was not from me, but was from my son, after his death. 

As an atheist, I like to put $ where I think it will do the most good.  I do not need a god to instruct me to do this.  I will help where I can, when I can.

 I could be wrong on this, but this tithing thing…isn’t that a throwback to the times when it fell solely on the churches to financially support the elderly, sick, or poor? Do they do that now to a significant extent?  It seems to me that the government has taken over many of the costs that the churches used to use the tithing money for… I just get a bad taste in my mouth when I hear about tithing to an institution that has obvious wealth, no taxes, and seems to be using the bulk of their money to further their own agenda.

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xyzzy For all the right reasons; w/o threat, or promise of reward December 24, 2013, 06:46:56 PM
Emily Nice. December 24, 2013, 05:06:09 PM
lotanddaughters +1 December 24, 2013, 04:52:03 PM
wright Altruism AND honoring your son's wishes; well done December 24, 2013, 03:40:47 PM