(Oprah) recast Ms. Nyad's views to fit her own SPAG, right to her face. I find that disrespectful, condescending and offensive.
Absolutely. I get this a lot from believers for whom it is okay to rudely dismiss my beliefs and preferences because they want to stamp their own badge on it.
These days, I normally respond that "well, I don't call you a Christian because you don't fit my stereotype of a Christian - what would you like me to call you instead?"
If they refuse my self-label, to my face, I will do likewise.