Yeah, Jynnan, I have been told before that good deeds I have done were "God moving in my heart". The implication being (confirmed by my questions) that I was incapable of charity absent this influence. I found that more than a little insulting. TBH.
Conversely, I have heard others say that the devil made them do something bad, or that they were tempted by Satan. I've even heard of one guy (with his own internet show) who said that atheists were possessed by demons and that we needed exorcism.
I find this all really weird.
Usually with the bad stuff... it's "your own free will" and because you "disobey god" you are "given over" to the enemy and consequences of your bad decisions.
It's very insulting.
Sometimes I listen to Christian Radio just to amaze myself at how I was able to do the mental gymnastics to support it when I was a believer, and now that I'm not, there's so much on there that is obviously wrong. Now that I'm not living in constant fear of questioning God, it's easy to question.
They were counseling some guy on whether or not he'd get re-married and were perfectly happy to tell him that sometimes god wants you to be single and sometimes god used your first marriage to mold you into a better person for your second one, and when he's ready, he'll put someone new in your life.
It was all horribly arrogant.
A - Assuming that the first divorce, and all the massive damage done there-in, even though divorce is supposed to be "wrong" - That was all part of God's plan for this dude... nevermind that he's probably set back a decade or more and may be fighting to keep his relationship with his kids healthy and struggling with emotional pain.
B - Once a person feels ready to move on from a past relationship, they'll probably have learned something from it, and they'll go out and start meeting people and dating, and then they'll eventually find something that is close to what they were looking for... and at that point, if they're Christian, they'll discount all that effort and give all the credit to God.
C - Sometimes god wants you to be... single, married, suffering with cancer, having a retarded baby, rich & happy, any other random condition...
"Sometimes god wants you to be..." is the big excuse for giving credit for any possible nonsensical outcome to God.
It's all a gigantic crock of shit that doesn't help anyone.