I don't want to hurt people. When I hurt others I hurt also.
Please take this bit of info to your believing friends then ok?
- If someone has a horribly disabled child, it's hurtful to suggest that it's all part of god's plan, or everything happens for a reason.
- If you think god has blessed you by giving you a pay raise, and praise him for it, what does it say to the person who lost their job and their family fell apart while they tried to get new work and they can't see their own kids anymore?
- If god never gives anyone more than they can handle, why are there suicides?
- If god brings two people together and commands them not to separate in his holy book, why is the divorce rate among theists higher than non-believers?
What I'm saying is this. People suffer, and making all kinds of excuses for a being who clearly would have the power to help, if he existed and cared, is painful to them.
Instead of jumping to god's defense, why not stop to consider ONLY how that person is feeling? Don't worry about the cosmic injustice of it all and how to make some excuse for God.
If there is a God at all, his plan is so random and painful and awful that none of us understand it, not you, not anyone... so stop trying. Just look at the person and how they're hurting and put yourself in their shoes.
And if you hear what I'm saying... if you are not personally guilty of any of that... please pass it on to your believer friends.
And if you want to "fix people" please start with the people in your church. Maybe get the divorce rate lower than average in your own church before coming down on gay marriage or whatever.
Clean up your own house first.