^^^That is exactly right.
Being proud, strong, confident or happy won't cut it when talking to god, because god has this plan, ya see. The praying people have to constantly second-guess themselves, hoping to word everything just perfectly, and be abject and groveley enough to get their prayers heard. Praying is like a limbo dance, how low can you go?
It is, of course, never god's fault if they get something else instead of what they asked for. It is never the case that god made a mistake or was being capricious or mean (or does not exist). It was their
fault for not being accepting enough of god's will, or for praying wrongly or with the wrong attitude (like, too proud, strong, confident or happy) or for the wrong things. Your prayer for meeting a nice man and getting married was just not in line with god's plan. But date rape? That was part of his plan.
It is never clear what was wrong with the unanswered or badly answered prayer, but without clear feedback, you can't improve your praying to raise your positive response rate. People don't point to someone in their church and go, "See Mrs. Stevens over there? She's been praying for 35 years. She's the best prayer in town. She gives prayer workshops and everyone who attends gets an 80% or higher positive answered prayer rate. Guaranteed or your money back." In real life, Mrs. Stevens, after 35 years of prayer experience, is no better than her cat at getting god to answer her prayers positively.
And there is no point praying for impossible things like for a child's cleft palate to seal back together, or for an amputee son home from the war to grow his arm back. God don't play that. Better to keep prayers trivial, and focused on things that might happen anyway, like god, please help me be on time for work, or please let my football team win, or please help me not fall down the stairs in the night. Or prayers should be very general, like lord, please help me be a better father.
Beware of praying for important, specific things, like for grandma's senile dementia to go away tomorrow. God will have a train hit and kill grandma tomorrow, and it will all be your fault. Wanted the dementia gone, didn't you? Ha! Monkey's Paw! Remember what happened to Jephthah's daughter? He should have been more careful, and god would not have had to kill the girl! Not god's fault at all. Although god has a plan. And god knows that, as part of his plan, what you really wanted all along was for your daughter to die.
When we really get a praying theist pinned down here, they admit, after only about 100 posts, that the only "correct" prayer is "Thy will be done." And then they are supposed to embrace whatever happens as what they wanted all along anyway. Even date rape. Christians will try to weasel out of this. But what Muslims do is thank Allah for everything that happens, because everything, even the worst disaster, is in accordance with his will.
If that is not a description of a fascist dictatorship, I don't know what is.