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Offline shokenman

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People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« on: October 28, 2014, 12:14:56 PM »
Ok just curious how you guys react to someone saying 'I'll pray for you'
IT used to be I would say 'Thank you for thinking of me'.
But now i actually find it annoying.
Its like I can't do anything tangible or worthwhile to help you out, but I'll pray to god for you.
I actually will say in response  'don't bother'

How about you guys?

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Re: People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« Reply #1 on: October 28, 2014, 12:19:08 PM »
I think you should try to go back to taking it as 'Thank you for thinking of me.'

Seriously - that's pretty much the primary sentiment most people are really trying to get across to you.  Yes, some of them really do mean that they'll think to the airpray for you, and that's their business, but really, I'm pretty sure even those people are, first and foremost, letting you know that you'll be in their thoughts.

Or, I suppose, they're saying it as a mindless pleasantry similar to 'Have a nice day'  and are just fulfilling their end of the social contract in the way they best see fit.  And you still shouldn't be too annoyed by it.
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Re: People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« Reply #2 on: October 28, 2014, 12:31:45 PM »
The only circumstances I would find that offensive would be where I needed someone's direct, immediate assistance and they felt that prayer alone was sufficient. That's yet to occur in my life; all believers that I know recognize that prayer by itself isn't going to cook a meal, drive someone to the hospital or move a 300-lb sofa.

So I see it as a social pleasantry, much as I say "Take care," or "Have a good trip." In all honesty, at times I find it mildly irritating, but not worth getting worked up about. Life is too short.
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Re: People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« Reply #3 on: October 28, 2014, 01:00:46 PM »
Ok just curious how you guys react to someone saying 'I'll pray for you'
IT used to be I would say 'Thank you for thinking of me'.
But now i actually find it annoying.
Its like I can't do anything tangible or worthwhile to help you out, but I'll pray to god for you.
I actually will say in response  'don't bother'

How about you guys?

A lot of times it's like a blow-off.  They're not going to think of you, pray for you, or try to help you.   They don't even spend a few minutes considering your situation.
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Re: People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« Reply #4 on: October 28, 2014, 01:19:08 PM »
"Praying is the least one can do!"

That is literally true and people who say they will pray for you really mean it - that's all they will do for you.
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Re: People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« Reply #5 on: October 28, 2014, 02:14:36 PM »
Ok just curious how you guys react to someone saying 'I'll pray for you'
IT used to be I would say 'Thank you for thinking of me'.
But now i actually find it annoying.
Its like I can't do anything tangible or worthwhile to help you out, but I'll pray to god for you.
I actually will say in response  'don't bother'

How about you guys?
To say "I'll pray for you" is a very insulting statement, though those that say do not realise it is, they think they are doing something positive for you.  It is however saying that you are somehow lacking something. When it is said to me. I reply with "And I will take time out of my day to cast a spell in your honour." I do this so they actually think about what they said. Even though I think it may fall on deaf ears.

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Re: People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« Reply #6 on: October 28, 2014, 04:45:49 PM »
Just tell them you will think for them.
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Re: People who say 'I'll pray for you'
« Reply #7 on: October 28, 2014, 11:12:13 PM »
If they don't know I'm an atheist, then I let it slide, and take it in the spirit intended.

If they know I'm an atheist, then they're just thumbing their nose at me in their passive/aggressive bullshit way, and I treat it accordingly.
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