There is no evidence that people are born gay though. They can't find the gay gene. This means it's in the soul.
No, Skeptic -- This isn't a simple dichotomy between a single "gay" allele on a chromosome versus some nebulous spiritual construct. Gender identity is a composite of possibly multiple genetic traits (for example, hormonal balance, brain structure and inherited preference for certain physical traits in a partner), and possibly also some environmental factors.
Sexual attraction is also on a continuum. Some people prefer men with large muscles and a hairy chest, or women with large breasts. Me, I'm attracted to androgyny -- Tomboyish women, and men with delicate features.
Skin color and eye color can not be compared to who you choose to sleep with. I can go out and find a guy to have sex if I wanted to, but I don't want to. It IS a choice no matter what anyone says.
I think you're equivocating a bit on the word "choice." Choice is not attraction
. I don't want to go out and find a guy to have sex with either, but if I'm attracted to a woman I'll feel the attraction regardless of whether I choose to sleep with her. Why should I remain celibate, unable to engage in a relationship with a willing adult partner, just because someone else's
religion doesn't like it?