@ neopagan...Thanks. Yes, my wife knows. We basically agree not to talk about it. She is not a strict believer (no church), but she does believe and prays to herself each night. I don't try to stop her or say anything bad about her beliefs (though I never understood this whole half ass approach to religion that so many do)....everyone needs to find their own way. I guess I'm an atheist, I never tried to put a label on it.....we're born, we live, we die and there is a lot we don't understand, but fairytales are not the answer.
@ ParkingPlaces...Thanks, glad to be here. I've never felt "lonely", just wondered why so many are so insecure that they need to lie to themselves. I'm pretty strong willed and not one to "follow the pack". I'm always open to new ideas and will talk about pretty much anything, but I can't stand 'bible thumpers".
I love my son and want him to understand what I believe to be the truth, and I believe he is already smart enough to understand it, but I also know that there are certain stages in life and I want him to enjoy being a kid as long as possible without the realities of life ruining it. We decided to do the whole Santa thing, which he still believes in, and that is going to be a big enough shock to him.