I haven't read the whole thread, but what I'm seeing here, in terms of misunderstanding, seems to be a difference in thought processes. Call it right brain vs. left brain, or conceptual vs. detailed, touchy-feely vs. logical ...
In my opinion, there is a place for both. I know a lot of people who consider themselves spiritual but not religious. These tend to be folks who don't like to label their beliefs and/or practices. They often just enjoy whatever the experience is, without trying too hard to define it. In this case, it sounds like junebug likes to use the word "god." Some do that for lack of a better word, or because that word is what's common in our society, or simply so that others maybe sort of get a vague sense of what she might be talking about.
But here's the thing. If you're a conceptual person, having a life experience, and its important but vague, it is VERY hard to put it in words so that others understand it. It is VERY hard to defend it based on logic. It is VERY hard to explain it to a detail-oriented, logical, left brain kind of person.
In my case, if I have an "interesting experience," I try not to define it. It could be psychological (inner child word, dreams, fantasy). It could be something else. For me, it doesn't matter what it is, and I don't call it god. I simply call it an interesting experience, or if I'm around someone with a particular viewpoint, perhaps I call it a journey, or a meditation, or something. I might compare it to prayer or waking dream, though those are just comparisons.
I THINK, that perhaps junebug is somewhere in this realm of experience. In this hard-to-describe, not religiously organized, experiential, maybe-spiritual, stuff. It may take awhile for her to come up with words, or explanations, or ways of defending her experience. And, quite frankly, I'm not worried about her defending it. Some things simply can't be explained well, especially to someone who doesn't share a worldview, or a way of experiencing the world.
So, what's my point? I guess its this ... that this crowd can be a VERY tough one for anyone who doesn't look at the whole world experience with logic, and logic only. Someone like myself, who has been around this planet for a fairly long time, can often explain my right brain, conceptual experiences in ways that most can understand. But younger persons, or persons more steeped in a christian background, who chooses to use words like "god," are going to have a tough time getting through.
Again, I haven't read through the whole thread, so I might be missing something major. But I find viewpoints that differ from "militant atheist" and "born again christian nutjob" very refreshing, regardless of the form it takes. At least its different.