Here's an example of doctrine that is confusing at best: why do so many people have faith while the rest of us just cannot get there? For us atheists, the world is like being the only sober person at a party where everyone else is high on drugs.
All around us people are pointing at stuff we can't see, dancing to music we can't hear, and laughing at things that aren't funny. However, unlike the drug party, there is nothing we can take to make us like the rest of the folks. There is no "god pill".
Some people have the faith thing down easy; they read something in the bible or went to church and that did it for them. No matter how much what they learn flies in the face of objective reality, they manage to believe.
Others say that they did not believe, but then one day, in jail or at a revival meeting or just walking down the street, god slapped faith into them and they became religious overnight. Again, even though reality does not match up, they are able to believe and attribute it all to god's grace.
It appears that god grants some people this faith thing without them going through much effort. But what about the rest of us-- many of us have read various religious books, thought about god, and attended various services. And nada.
So, does god alone decide who is to be given the gift of faith and therefore be saved? Or can we somehow persuade or convince god that we are among those who deserve to be saved? We get varying answers from believers, sometimes different answers from the same believer. I can recall a few who contradicted themselves in the same posting!
Most of us here were religious/god believers at some point in our lives. We started to question our beliefs, found too many holes and contradictions, and therefore became atheists. We lost our faith, and evidently god does not give a damn. Instead of giving us the evidence that we would need to believe, we get to interact with people who, in giving us lame old arguments full of illogic, re-convince us that there is probably no god.
For me, gods, religion, and all supernatural stuff are equally unproven and as unlikely as fairies, vampires, werewolves, ghosts, Santa and the Easter Bunny. Most people here on this site are in somewhat the same boat. So, we are still waiting, still not believing.
Not because we have found absolute proof of no god
, since, as you say, such proof does not exist. Not because we worship Satan at cannibal orgies, or are evil psychos who torture puppies--most of us are pretty normal, incredibly law-abiding and rather boring. But we found not a bit of evidence that there was such a being
We keep asking believers to present us with their evidence. In response, they point at stuff we cannot see and dance to music we can't hear. In other words, none so far.