I don't think trying to forgive someone that has hurt you is a tantrum.
I firmly believe that ignorance is curable. The simple desire to seek knowledge is so powerful.
But when ignorance is wrapped in arrogance, the arrogance protects and nurtures the ignorance. That leads to indignation and self-righteousness, and takes up a lot of emotional energy. When we get caught in this cycle, we are often distracted, and it is impossible for us to accurately assess reality.
June? Why did you come here? What are you hoping to get out of your participation in this forum? Take a moment to really think about it. Each of us is here for a different set of reasons. Some to learn and to share. Some, I suspect, come here to find solidarity with like-minded thinkers, only to be surprised at the diversity of the secular thought. Some to find community. Some to explore different perspectives. Some are here to save lost souls.
And you? I think you are here because you crave attention. You really want praise and support and comfort, (and I suspect you really need it) but if you can't get it, you are almost as satisfied with negative attention. So long as you are the center of the drama. I suspect that the content of a conversation is much less important to you than the level of drama that you can generate by participating in the discussion. You zone in on minutia, missing the bigger points, often imagining yourself the victim, while at the same time, the one who holds the monopoly on virtue and righteousness. You can be magnanimous in your pity for those who you imagine are attacking you, because you imagine that you are the "good" one, while the rest of us all fall short. And that makes you feel that you have some sort of value.
The content of the conversation is really irrelevant, isn't it? You could be talking about atheism or swapping recipes for holiday meals or making plans to co-host a social event. The drama and the dynamic would be the same. Wouldn't it?
So why are you here?