You said "directly" as if I assumed 'god' came down from heaven and made the selection in a physical form. Clearly I was referencing what you stated, that the vote is somehow "guided" by god.
I said "directly" to ensure we were both on the same page, and to create a greater distinction between the human and divine elements.
However, for that to be true, the vote would absolutely have to be unanimous. And you are right, there is no way to know the inner workings of those who cast votes, but you fail to take it the next step--of whether there is ANY "holy spirit" guiding any of them. I'm sure each one of those guys thinks the HS is guiding them, and by default it has to be lying to those who have an alternative vote.
As someone speaking with a belief in my position, I don't always feel the need to spend time presenting the opposing view in discussions. I have, at times, considered that absolutely everything in Christianity is false (and even "absolutely everything," but that's a topic for another thread), but that doesn't mean I need to put "if Christianity is true" at the end of everything I write. Were I writing a paper on the subject, I'd feel more obligated to include the opposing view, but in a fluid discussion I'm often content to let the person holding that position be the first to present it.
As for God's guidance, I don't see why divine guidance must produce a unanimous result. Or more accurately, I can see why you said it, but not why it's binding. You seem to be working from a mental image of God choosing the best candidate and relaying that to the Cardinals as unambiguously as possible, "PICK THIS GUY!" Thus, anything short of unanimity must be evidence of failure of communication or failure to act on the communication. But we really have no basis on which to generate that image in the first place.
Catholics believe that both the human world and the divine world are important, and at the end of the day the Pope is a human leading humans. Also, Catholics believe that God gives us free will with which we can make decisions about our own futures. It's entirely possible that God chooses a Pope ahead of time, and guides discussion through gentle nudges to push it in the right direction and help the Cardinals to come to the decision through their human faculties rather than just by divine command. Or, it's also possible that the Holy Spirit inspires the Cardinals with certain qualities they should be looking for in a Pope, but leaves the actual decision to the Cardinals so that they can have input according to their human values. There's no real reason for us to assume that the Holy Spirit guiding the conclave to elect a Pope will necessarily result in a unanimous decision per divine command.
As for the dogma comment, it has to do with Catholics being upset that god's rep broke tradition. Either they think he is guided by god or they dont. If they think he is, then their being upset means they find their dogmas and traditions to be more important than what god wants.
The Pope broke neither tradition nor dogma. He violated liturgical law, which states the specific way to perform each ritual.
Your comment about dogmas being more important than what God wants is a bit nonsensical to me, because dogmas are the core beliefs that define a person as a Catholic. If someone believes that God wants something that contradicts Catholic dogma, then that person does not believe in the same god as Catholics and is by definition not Catholic.
As for traditions, they're things humans do to remind ourselves about something spiritual, and should not take the place of God's will. Speaking of which, why do you seem to be implying that the Pope's actions reflected what God wants? I saw nothing in any of the reports where the Pope or Vatican claimed that he was following divine will; why is it not possible that this was simply the Pope's will?
I appreciate your candidness, but your whole post basically shows that your god and his holy spirit have no affect in his own church.
No, it really doesn't. You seem to be assuming a false dilemma
that either God is micromanaging His church or He's not managing it at all. Not only does that exclude everything in between those extremes, but it also contradicts Catholic beliefs about free will.