I'm sorry that you have to ask that question.
May I make a few observations?
First of all, a significant percentage of "rational thinkers" are more than a little obsessive about details and accuracy. They are not looking for intent. They are scrutinizing details. They are looking to find flaws in arguments. That is what they do.
You are a hospice nurse. So you are a medical professional, trained in science, but a significant percentage of your work has to do with accurately reading emotions, and responding to those emotions. The content is not as important as the intent. I'm guessing that you were drawn to the field because you are innately empathetic, and then in your professional life, you found yourself improving upon that particular set of skills.
I'm an empathy-oozing type too. Yeah, I look for evidence, and I don't let folks get away with too much BS, but I often respond emotionally before I respond rationally. And I get some shit here for it too. But I'm on the majority side here, and you are on the minority side, so I suspect that folks here cut me more slack than they do you.
I very much enjoy your contributions to the intelligent discussions here. I know a lot of people here do. And I suspect that if you and I were having a drink after work, we would not even talk about religion. I certainly don't spend my life trying to "deconvert" my religious friends and family. If I share a common sense of values with someone who is religious, I may be interested in hearing how their religion impacts on their life and their culture and their family and their traditions, but I have no interest in attacking it. And I'm more interested in those values and motivations and actions and life decisions and even their feelings! I coexist quite happily with my religious friends.
But the theme of this website is a confrontational one. And so the rational thinkers, even the ones who sit quietly and politely when their uncle Marvin rants irrationally about the afterlife at Thanksgiving dinner, are on their game here.
Does any of that make any sense? Does any of it begin to address your concerns?