Ok. I think I've calmed down enough to at least attempt to respond coherently.
Or the boy who walks into his parents room one day and sees daddy fucking daddy in the ass. You tell me he's growing up a normal kid.
Over the millennia, many many children have accidently witnessed their parents engaging in coitus.
I agree, it is not a great thing for a kid to see. But do these kids grow up to be "normal?"
Well, normal is a relative term. I think most of us agree that it is something we should try to avoid.
Do you think that it would be significantly more damaging for a child to witness his or her heterosexual parents engaging in penal/anal penetration? Is it the anal penetration that concerns you most? Or is it the gender of the parents?
Or is it the gender of the child? I notice here you specify a "boy" walking in on his parents. Is your primary concern that a boy is going to witness a male experiencing penetration? Do you consider penetration so degrading that you think a boy will be permanently damaged if he imagines himself being penetrated? What would your feelings be about a boy witnessing his heterosexual parents engaging in digital or other forms of penetration of the father? Would this concern you equally damaging to the child?
I'm wondering if you have thought this through.
But what about these innocent children that get adopted into this hell hole.
Now let's move on to the topic of adoption. As an adoptive parent, this is a topic very close to my heart. With the possible exception of stepparent adoption, or surrogacy, let's remember that all adoption starts with a tragedy or crisis in the life of a child. His or her biological parents are unable or unwilling to parent, for whatever reason. Death, drugs, jail, abuse, economic marginalization, age, inability to cope effectively with a child's special needs, or perhaps just an undesired pregnancy.
For the adoptive parent or parents, adoption is not an easy process. It is not something someone does on a whim. It is an intrusive process, that involves social workers inspecting your home, quizzing you on parenting style and philosophy and digging into your financial records, gobs of paperwork and legal procedures, and depending on the type of adoption, it might require psychological evaluations, parenting classes, extensive travel, expenses, and waiting. Lots of waiting.
When somebody decides to adopt, it is because she/he/they really really really want to become parents. Children who grow up in families in which they are wanted and loved and cherished tend to grow up happier and healthier than children who are raised in families in which the parent or parents are not invested in the child's welfare.
Which leads us into the topic of non-traditional families.
Look at statistics of kids brought up in a loving, daddy, mommy home and kids brought up in fatherless, or motherless homes and you'll see the proof. Our society has yet to produce many gay home facts yet since we won't know results for another generation. There's a few but not as many as there's going to be here now with all the new laws. But I bet that will prove to be a failure let on by our society as well.
Excellent point. There is a wealth of data about the hardships faced by children who have grown up in single mom households. But you need to take into account a range of other factors. The data clearly demonstrates that the majority of children being raised by single (never married) moms are being raised by very young women who had not planned the child's conception. The vast majority have low levels of education, and often the pregnancy resulted in their failure to continue their education. There is a very close relationship between educational levels and lifetime income, and most of these families tend to be very low income. The kids often grow up not getting enough attention, enough nutrition, and enough exposure to educational opportunities that will lead the child out of poverty. 
I'm a single mom, and I've studied these statistics. I'm older, financially established, well-educated, and I was SO READY to be a mom. Younger married couples who have kids my daughter's age still want to call a babysitter and go out to clubs or whatever. I have left my daughter with a babysitter ONCE. My weekends are hers, to enjoy zoos and museums and music festivals and birthday parties and playdates and parks. At 6, she WANTS to take a Saturday class next month to prepare her for her first chess tournament. She is well-traveled, can say a few phrases in a half a dozen languages, is thriving at one of the boro's best elementary schools, and has an active social life. But most importantly, she know she is loved and cherished and that she is the center of my universe. I've been very conscious to make sue she has strong male role models. Heterosexual uncles and cousins. But one of her favorite men in the whole wide world is the gay dad of one of her classmates.
I'm guessing that decades from now, my sweet little girl will be a happy, highly educated, accomplished young woman, in spite of being raised by a single mom.
I myself know what it's like to grow up without both parents full time because of a divorce. No my parents weren't gay thank you, but any home without a mommy and daddy is going to have consequences for those children that some of us still live with today as adults. Why can't people see the reason we see so many school shootings and depression, to name 2, is because of the fact kids aren't brought up in same type of family atmosphere they once were centuries ago.
Then there is divorce. Divorce is often hard on children. Children like security and continuity, and children often feel confusion and guilt about the changes in their family structures. Divorce is also hard on the parents, who often feel stress and unhappiness, which effects their interactions with their children. I am sorry that the divorce of your parents impacted your life so negatively.
But sometimes divorce is the right thing to do. For the children as well as the parents. Look at Astreja's story. It seems pretty clear that her accomplished young daughter grew up in a much healthier environment that she would have if her biological parents had stayed together.
Why can't people see the reason we see so many school shootings and depression, to name 2, is because of the fact kids aren't brought up in same type of family atmosphere they once were centuries ago.
It would be great if you could take a moment and really think about what you really believe. If I were a man, I might be able to see the appeal of the Ozzie and Harriet lifestyle. Who wouldn't want an obedient wife, who cleans and cooks and takes on the primary parenting role? A man who rules supreme over his household kingdom, who is free to slap his wife around if she gets out of line. Of course, in those families, kids were abused emotionally and sometime sexually by their dads. But no one ever talked about it, like they do today. Dad could do what he wanted.
But as a woman, I have a little trouble feeling nostalgia for this era.
School shootings? Really? You think we have school shootings because dad's don't reign supreme in their families anymore? Is that what you really believe?
Or anal sex? You think we have school shootings because of anal sex? Really? Think about it.
I apologize for my angry post last night. I really hope that you are not past the point of moving beyond your ignorance on this issue. I think you just haven't really thought most of this through.
Give it some time and some thought. Try and figure out what it is that you are really so angry about.