@Chronos and others You know, I suspect that since the beginning of the development of advanced human language, women have sat around outside of tents weaving baskets and inside adobe huts grinding corn and in damp stone fortresses embroidering royal crests, while discussing content very similar to the content of her monologue. It is the “up” spot. The “down” spot. The middle. No, it is really all about the little external clitoral button. No, it is the motion. No, it is a single spot. No, it is multiple spots. No, it is a spot that moves. It only works when it is slow. It only works when it is fast. It needs to be gentle. It needs to be rough. It only works at this angle. What you are describing is exactly what I’ve never had the words to describe. What you are describing is completely different from what I experience. I had no idea anyone else felt quite like this. It can go on for an hour? More? Really? I had no idea that this is what it feels like to other people. Why are my sexual experiences so different from yours? Is it me? Is it my partner? But what do you do? How do you do that? Can you do it alone? How? You use a what?
I think that these discussions, these explorations of female sexuality, void of rational content or explicit goals, are valid in an of themselves. I also think that modern society does not provide women with the women-only space to have these discussions, and I really applaud this woman for taking it to the internet to continue what is certainly a discussion that has ancient roots, but whose content is fresh and informative for each generation.
And then, the “I know he’s not good for me, but I can’t imagine not having that feeling” discussions. That is another universal discussion.
Her target audience (in this piece) seem to be women, (probably young women) who, like her, have unlocked many of the sexual secrets that I honestly did not uncover myself until my 30’s. Her personal sexual experiences would not have struck a chord with me in my 20’s. And neither would her cautionary advice. I tended to err on the other side, preferring really “nice guys” who treated me with such respect that they would never have taken the sexual risks that were necessary to find the sexual pleasures that she describes. But although I imagine that most of her viewers are black women, the content of her advice is certainly not race specific. There are women of all races who uncover the complexities of their orgasms at a young age, and subsequently make poor life choices.
@EV – I do not pretend to be privy to the content or tone of the sexual discussions that take place among 17 year old males, but let me ask you a question. You used the word “nymphomaniac” to describe her. What word would you use to describe a male who shares her enthusiasm for sexual activity, and her openness at describing his own personal sexual experiences?
I am really enjoying this discussion. Again, I’m really surprised by the male perspective on this woman’s monologue.
Now I REALLY need to get to my breakfast meeting.