I'm genuinely a little confused.
I am active in the adoptive parent community, and a lot of people adopt due to fertility issues. Embryo adoption comes up frequently as an option for prospective adoptive parents, and a surprising number of women really want to go through the experience of pregnancy and birth.
But I know very few people who have gone through with an embryo adoption. I kind of assumed that it was difficult to do. But I might just be misinformed.
It might be that when a mom gives birth to an adopted embryo, she and her family do not identify the child as being adopted, so they fall out of the "adoptive parent' circuit.
I know one single mom who pursued anonymous donor insemination, only to find out she had fertility issues. She then pursued embryo adoption, and found a great situation. A mom, (in Canada) had already had several successful embryo implantations, and had three kids at home. Then her husband died, and she really wanted to "use" the embryos, but did not feel equipped to be a single parent to four. So my neighbor adopted her embryos, and the first attempt didn't take, but then she had a beautiful baby girl. She has a close relationship with the genetic mother, and has taken her daughter to visit her siblings in Canada. The genetic mom is thrilled that her deceased husbands genes are living on in another child, and the mom raising the daughter is just thrilled to be a mom. It is a win/win situation.
But what are all of these embryos? I'm trying to understand the psychology here.
Prospective parents who pursue in vitro fertilization are folks who really want to be parents, and who feel strongly that they want to be genetic parents to their children, rather than adoptive parents. So they fertilize a few eggs, and either successfully have a child, or they don't. In either case, they have a few embryos left over. Do they decide to put them up for adoption? Or do they authorize them to be destroyed, and then some Christians take them? The latter is very, very creepy.