Sometimes they can be your undoing. One has to take them on a case by case basis.
We all have them. I think my biggest flaw is that I don't let things go. I have other flaws, like, arrogance, stubborn, and my tone always seems to come off as assholish. I've even been called a bully many times, though, I don't see myself as one.
And, I have no problem with any of these flaws, except maybe the first. It's who I am. And I don't see it as a bad thing. Was I a better person before I became these things? Maybe, maybe not.
The things about me I really didn't like, I got rid of over a long period of time. Used to be a violent person, physically. Not anymore. Used to be an alcoholic. Not anymore. Used to be a thief. Not anymore. Used to be a drug addict. Not anymore.
My point: flaws can be good and healthy things. And even though I find that me not letting things go is my only big flaw at the moment, I don't find it to be a bad thing. I usually find the truth with that flaw.
Others may not care for it but I don't care.
I use my flaws.
It is wrong to cop out and say those flaws are "who you are". They are not. You may have tendencies
that make you more prone to some of them. You may also have had a bad upbringing that allowed you to live with some of them unchecked. It may indeed be true, thatvin some scenarios, your weaknesses are strengths.
I know what i am talking about here.bI myself have ADHD. Tendencies are my middle name. Some of those are skmilar tl yours and some are worse.
My ADHD is not going to "go away". My brain is indeed wired differently. I can treat that a bit; e.g., i can take meds which i do not currently or i can self medicate with caffeine which i do for focus. In brain storming sessions, i control my tendencies less than in case where i need to stick to the task at hand. I wont go into hyperfocus which can also be a disadvantage at times.
My wife accepts my tendencies somewhat but sometimes specific aspects annoy her; e.g., me talking too much and not letting her get a word in edgewise. Luckiliy she tends to tell me when i get out of hand.
In summary, you come equiped with a brain to evaluste the consequences of your actions. Just turning it off and saying "i am like that" is a cop out. You do have tendencies in those directions but that doesnt mean yiu should stop adapting yourself.
Note, it does mean, when you make certain choices, such as career, you should take your tendencies in mind. It may mean, you have to do things differently than other people.
In short, you have no excuse, not to look at the man in the mirror and evaluste your life choices like the rest of us.
By the wsy, what an awesome op.