Every sperm that meets an egg does not have to become a baby. Why is this even a controversial statement, in a world of limited resources and 7 billion people? If the woman does not want to be pregnant, for whatever reason, no matter what anyone else thinks about it, she should be able to get an abortion under safe, sanitary, professional conditions.
Why is it that some folks think that abortion should be limited to rational, straight-thinking, responsible, "nice" women who have really good reasons for not wanting a child? A woman should not become a "mother" just because she happened to produce an egg that got fertilized. Our civilization deserves better. Our children deserve better.
From a pragmatic non-religious public policy standpoint, abortion laws should be limited to determining that providers are qualified, properly trained and working under sanitary medical conditions. Abortion should be considered a health care procedure like having a biopsy. There should not be any laws that determine who can and who cannot get an abortion, based on random facts like what magical imaginary being the local judge believes in, what state or city the woman lives in, how the egg got fertilized, or who the fertilized egg is inside of.
Is she a slut or a virgin? Is she single or married? Did she use birth control? Does she already have kids? Has she had an abortion before? Is she 16 or 36 or 56? Did she like the sex? Was she forced or raped? Did she try to stop the guy? What do her parents think about the situation? WTF difference does any of that make? She does not want to be pregnant.
How does it help society to have people forced to be parents who can't even handle the basics of their own lives? We want thoughtful, careful, rational people to have kids, not people who act like the girls in some teen comedy show.
If a woman wants an abortion because she won't fit into her party dress in six months, she should be moved to the front of the line and given the operation for free. The more frivolous and non-sensical reason someone has for wanting an abortion, the more I want them to hurry up and get one.
Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan should have abortions every week if necessary. Please, please don't have a child just because you had sex and forgot to take a pill, you silly self-centered beeyatches. Babies require way too much work and committment to let just anyone have one--some people should not be allowed to have a chia pet let alone a human child. I do not want the next generation of kids born to frivolous, irresponsible, thoughtless, selfish people who are sporadically promiscuous and don't plan ahead or are too simple-minded, drugged up or drunk to use birth control consistently.
The only place I see any potential for real controversy among rational people is regarding the situation of the sperm producer--I do not think of him as "the father" until we know that there will indeed be a baby. Ideally, a man should know who he is having sex with, and if it is one of the aforementioned silly beeyatches, he should not want her to become the mother of his child.
If a man does not want to be a father, he should be making double sure of the birth control--vasectomy and a condom? If a man wants to be a father, he should be with a woman who wants to be a mother. (I also think men should be able to foster and adopt kids if they want.)