Christians find hope in god; atheists don't find hope in god. It's that simple. When christians find the need to pray to god to find hope atheists find it in other places. I for one find hope in my youngest sister and my husband. I have faith
that they will be there to comfort me, help me, (whatever), whenever I need it. I know this because they have done so before. They don't require me to praise them once they do something for me; and they also don't require me to worship them, give them money, or anything.
Death comes to all of us. It's called reality. Whether or not you believe in god, it's reality. Christians die - and their loved ones mourn. Atheists die -and their loved ones mourn. Death happen to me, you, and everyone on this forum and everyone on this planet. It may seem grim but there is no escape from it, and there's no reason to hide from it because hiding from it is pointless.
The only thing you talk solstice in, hobbes, is simple believing that you will make it to heaven. And you are free to think this. I don't believe you are right but you can think it if you want too. But just like you when you turn to god for hope non-believers turn to other (more natural things) for hope.
If you want to claim your god is in control then he's doing a bad job. To quote George Carlin on the Mad TV Sketch of Touched by an Atheist
Why did god give you tumors in the first place.
A god that's in control wouldn't need you to seek out hope in him after the fact. If so he's only egotistical. If you need to turn to a god in times of hope he's not loving because he wouldn't put you in that position in that first place.
When something bad happens in my life I just don't have time to even think about turning towards a god for help. I need to be proactive. I have a lot of people on speed dial that I can call who I know will help me with whatever I need. But christians tend to call on god, and while they think god will answer, they are also talking their own steps towards finding hope.
Like if a christian loses his or her job. They feel hopeless, right? But they pray to god hoping for a god and when they get a job they thank god when in reality they either applied for the job to begin with, they knew someone who gave them a good recommendation to the HR team to call them offering a job, or their resume was posted on monster.com and some hiring manager liked what they saw and gave them a call.
We all find hope in our own things. Christians just enjoy attributing their founded hope to the god they blindly worship to the point that they don't realize that they could've found that same hope without it.
And another thing that gives me hope is siting in my back yard looking up at the sky on a dark night with the stars shining beautifully knowing that all of what we see is not the cause of some god but by science. Nature is truly beautiful and in times of hopelessness its easy to find comfort in knowing that what I see is the cause of something that doesn't require constant praise.