Or the other thing, when a terrible accident happens, lot of people die, someone luckily survives, and then they claim that the survival of this particular individual was a "miracle". Praise the Lord and so on...
What about all the other people that didn't survive in the accident? Was that a "miracle" too? Or maybe they just don't count?
Good point. That to me just comes off as selfish and egotistic.
I don't have any issues with comfort. I think it is great to console someone in pain. The problem comes with the absence of tact when a theist says God bless or mentions prayer. Prayer is not so clear because they could hit home with another denomination.
It reminds me of that uncomfortable situation when someone asks a woman when she is due, and in fact she is not pregnant. I know that is hyperbole but it gives a similar uncomfortable reaction and possible an angry one at that.
It is tough because Jesus freaks can be very comfortable when you need it most. In this country especially we are so out numbered that it doesn't make sense just to say well play it safe and don't use the God phrases when consoling someone. More times than not they would be correct in using those comments.
Funny thing about all of this is most of the time or more times than not, the comments are empty. I mean that in terms of the confidence of the person offering the prayers that they will be of use or effective. Think about it, when we went to church we never received anything from prayer. We know it doesn't work. Church goers know deep inside it doesn't work. Shoot in writing this I remember now. I violated this rule. I would pray for people like that. I knew I was just talking to myself.
The Catholic church even does this EVERY Sunday. We had a spot during church when the priest would pray for all the important people of the church (of course) and then the chumps in the audience could shout out prayers for friends and family. After every person in a half dead monotone voice we would say something like "we pray to our lord" or "Thanks be to god" Good times you guys. Give it a try.