Yahweh is like an abusive husband, and his believers are the battered spouses.
Its an analogy I've used many times before.
IF you do everything Yahweh says, EXACTLY how and when he wants it, then he is sweetness and light and will reward you.....at some unspecified point in the future.
But if you cross him....if you don't jump when he says frog....if you do anything
to displease him....then he will - quite literally - make your life hell.
If someone acted like that in any other field of existence, we would all be horrified and denounce them as a monster. And yet in our crazy world he is held up as the pinnacle of goodness and love.