I actually completely understand where you're coming from, TOT. And I think you've raised several interesting points.
So, you know. You're not alone.
The bumbling, helpless, usually doughy-around-the-midsection, whiney Beta Minus males are taking over if you believe your television.
Or they're the saucer-eyed college-aged hipster chemo kids.
Gah, like this commercial I've seen 100 times on HULU, about "premature persperation", and the whole commercial is these scrawny, awkward, pussy-looking little college kids, making ugly orgasm faces in front of hot chicks and getting sweat rings under their shirts because they're just SO awkward and nervous
.. And it ends with some dainty little flower of a guy who looks like a fucking AIDS patient putting on his magic AXE deoderant and then wandering off with a weird-faced Marsha Brady lookin' chick...
When you DO see a *MAN* character on T.V., I.E. one that's supposed to reflect actual masculinity, it's usually some sort of goofy exaggeration, like a viking or a biker. And they're usually half a troglodyte. Like the amount of testosterone correlates directly to the capacity for intelligence.
I'm guess I'm bitching because - and I'm *really* not wanting to sound like a douchebag here - but I'm kind of an uncommonly masculine guy I guess, and I just don't have a trace of "metro" anywhere in me. I'm 6'3, 200 lbs, bearded, mean-lookin', deep voice, aggressive when I want something, I don't shy away from conflict, physical or otherwise... It's just the way I am. And sometimes I'm made to feel like there's something WRONG with me simply because I'm not all soft and squishy and vulnerable.
I dunno. Maybe you'd have to know me to understand what I'm talking about. But I definitely stick out in a limp-wristed, soft-like-yogurt culture, and it makes me decidedly uncomfortable at times.
Don't get me wrong, I've got my warm & fuzzy parts of course... But the only people who ever get to see Sensitive Ray are the ones closest to me. Well, them, and a few complete strangers on the internet! lol