Once again the theist says, "If you don't believe what I say is true it's because you haven't looked" and the atheist says, "I did look-- I was a believer for years. I prayed. I asked. I searched. I read the bible, I went to church, I went to youth group. I invited Jesus into my heard, I tried to know him. I asked god to show me the light. I did EVERYTHING you and all others like you have told me to do. So obviously it ISN'T just a matter of asking god to show me." And the theist replies, "Well then you didn't try/ask/pray enough..."
They will never, ever, ever get it.
The reason it infuriates me is because it's tantamount, in my opinion, to calling me a liar. Doesn't matter what I say about my experience-- obviously if I say I tried my BEST I must be lying because if I HAD then I would ALSO believe. Doesn't matter if I say I WANTED to believe-- obviously that is a lie, too, or else I WOULD believe. They only way they can validate THEIR experience is to accuse mine of being false. The only way they can maintain THEIR truth is to call mine a lie. So instead of empathy, or understanding, or even basic communication-- instead of coming here and saying, "Oh really? You did try? Hmm... I wonder why we're different then," and actually THINKING about it, they show up, tell us to do what we've ALREADY done, and as soon as we don't all confess to having hated god and deliberately turned from him and suddenly seeing the light because some yahoo told us to "LOOK" they start in with the "you aren't being honest, you never really had faith" crap.
What's NOT honest is refusing to accept that someone's experience is DIFFERENT from yours because you are SO sure you are right you can't even COMPREHEND an alternative, and attacking the integrity and honesty of the same people you are allegedly trying to "HELP."