Before you read my reply, you should be aware that I've been called arrogant many times by different people over the years, and I am sick of it
, so you're in for a short rant.
Yes, but that is not what I am talking about. We certainly should be skeptical of everyone's ideas and question them. But the manner in which we do it need not be the same.
Once again, that's where we differ. If someone presents an idea I know
to be utterly moronic, I will call that idea just that, regardless of who's speaking.
If someone has questions about that which I think was made perfectly clear, I will react as if my assumption was correct. You may call that "arrogance" all you want.
However, even if I were to talk to people in a way that "reflects my respect for them", there's a very good reason for the fact that I don't, beyond the fact that I don't think you should treat people's opinions differently just because you respect them: I don't know who you are.
I know maybe one or two people here
. The rest are complete strangers, as far as I'm concerned.
Look, I am not trying to beat you up or have an argument.
I am trying to give you some information about yourself so that hopefully you will reflect on it and grow from it.
: If you think you know something about me
that I don't already know, you're wrong.
You don't have to believe me. You don't have to agree with me.
If I don't do either one, it seems kinda pointless to think about it; don't you think so?
And I am not going to spend much more time trying to convince you.
When I said you should ask Hatter his opinion, it was not rhetorical. I think you really should ask Hatter his opinion.
Hatter23 is free to share his opinion if he deems it necessary. However, other than my natural curiosity, I don't feel compelled to ask him to share it.
It is not an easy thing to accept criticism of one's self. But it is often the only way to progress.
Criticism of one's self is saying, for example
, that the fact that one thinks of everyone else as inferior is bad. It is not an attempt to change the way one sees oneself to match your PoV.
I know how I am. You may perceive me differently, but that won't change the truth. You seem to think that just because I respect someone I should treat them with "kid gloves" or something like that. I do not. You think that I'm arrogant. I might be more inclined to agree with you on this, although what some of you
perceive as me being arrogant is simply me being honest.
If I did not change my mind and/or apologize for being wrong, I would feel more inclined to agree with you on the arrogance thing. The truth is that when I make mistakes, I apologize and concede that I was wrong. I learn.
Humility is not assuming that one is wrong. It is acknowledging that one is not always right. There is an enormous difference between the two that most people just don't seem to get. In this specific case, yes, I was wrong in my assumption. I acknowledged that. I apologized.